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My grandparents were married for over half a
century and played their own special game from
the time they had met each other. The goal of
their game was to write the word *shmily* in a
surprise place for the other to find. They took
turns leaving *shmily* around the house, and as
soon as one of them discovered it, it was their
turn to hide it once more.

They dragged *shmily* with their fingers through
the sugar and flour containers to await whoever
was preparing the next meal. They smeared it in
the dew on the windows overlooking the patio
where my grandpa always fed us warm, home-
made pudding with blue food coloring. "Shmily"
was written in the steam left on the mirror after
a shower, where it would reappear after the bath.

At one point, my grandmother even unrolled an
entire roll of toilet paper to leave *shmily* on the
very last sheet. There was no end to the places
*shmily* would pop up. Little notes with *shmily*
scribbled on them were taped to steering wheels.

The notes were stuffed inside shoes and left under
pillows. *Shmily* was written in the dust upon the
mantel and traced in the ashes of the fireplace.
This mysterious word was as much a part of my
grandparents' house as the furniture. It took me
a long time before I was able to appreciate my
grandparents game.

Skepticism has kept me from believing in true
love, one that is pure and enduring. However I
never doubted my grandparents relationship.
They had love down pat. It was more than their
flirtatious little games; it was a way of life.
Their relationship was based on a devotion and
passionate affection which not everyone is lucky
enough to experience. Grandma and Grandpa held
hands every chance they could. They stole kisses as
they bumped into each other in their tiny kitchen.
They finished each others sentences and shared the
daily crossword puzzle and word jumble.

My grandma whispered to me how cute my grandpa
was, how handsome and old he had grown to be.
She claimed that she really knew "how to pick 'em."
Before every meal they bowed their heads and gave
thanks, marveling at their blessings: a wonderful
family, good fortune and each other.

But there was a dark cloud in my grandparents' life;
my grandmother had breast cancer. The disease had
first appeared ten years earlier. As always grandpa was
with her every step of the way. He comforted her in
their yellow room, painted that way so that she could
always be surrounded by sunshine, even when she was
too sick to go outside. Now the cancer was again
attacking her body. With the help of a cane and my
grandfathers steady hand, they went to church every
morning. But my grandmother grew steadily weaker
until, finally, she could not leave the house anymore.
Grandpa would go to church alone, praying to God to
watch over his wife. Then one day, what they all
dreaded finally happened. Grandma was gone.
*Shmily* was scrawled in yellow on the pink ribbons
on my grandmothers funeral bouquet.

As the crowd thinned and the last mourners turned
to leave, my aunts, uncles and cousins and other family
members came forward and gathered around Grandma
one last time. Grandpa stepped up to Grandmother's
casket and, taking a shaky breath, began to sing to her.

Through his tears and grief, the song came, a deep and
throaty lullaby. Shaking with my own sorrow, I will
never for get that moment. For I knew that although
I couldn't begin to fathom the depth of their love, I had
been privileged to witness it's unmatched beauty.

I'll bet you are wondering what *shmily* meant,
aren't you?
S-ee H-ow M-uch I L-ove Y-ou = SHMILY
Author Unknown To Me
Dede's Note:
I first read this *true love* story over a year ago and
Dick & I have done this SHMILY thing ever since. We both
loved the significance of it. We have always left notes
all over our home for one another, but this was just
another special way of saying I LOVE YOU!
We both thought this was an awesome love story!

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